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I wonder if there are cases where parents with a half-hearted understanding of IT create an aura of âprogramming is difficultâ and this propagates to their children. Iâm thinking about it.
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I didnât have that experience at my place because I had parents who didnât understand computers at all.
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- I think there are many adults who, implicitly or explicitly, give an aura of âyou canât do itâ when a child tries to challenge something they have tried and failed at, or something they have never tried without thinking they could do it, not just in IT. And sense of helplessness is inheritance.
- We need a filter that converts âX makes it impossible to doâ into âIt can be done, and even if it doesnât go smoothly, there is a way out, but X makes it impossible, so be careful about that.
- Helplessness is a contagious disease, and as an adult you can take steps to âkeep your distance if you see an infected person,â but itâs very difficult when youâre a child and your parents are infected.
- [windhole https://www.facebook.com/nishiohirokazu/posts/10213587448857094?comment_id=10213587634741741&comment_tracking=%7B%22tn%22%3A%22 R0%22%7D]
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Many parents (both explicitly and implicitly) want their children to âdo well,â and by that logic, itâs better to stay away from things that are likely to fail, right? Praise them for doing well Parents usually do. Itâs very hard to get them to understand otherwise. I think itâs partly because those guardians have been imprinted on them since they were children, too.
- I think the definition of âdoing wellâ may be at odds with the guardianâs and my own.
- Doing wellâ means trying many âthings that can go wrong,â succeeding in some of them, and of course making many mistakes, but they donât happen, and as a result, when outsiders look at you after the fact, you become âa person with some amazing achievements.
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- [Kato https://www.facebook.com/nishiohirokazu/posts/10213613642351915?comment_id=10213614080082858&comment_tracking=%7B%22tn%22%3A%22 R%22%7D]
- Propagation of hidden hostility
- Parent A stops Child B from doing X, which Child B is trying to do.
- Child B feels anger but perseveres. That becomes [hidden enmity
- When grandson C tried to do X, child B said, âI was made to quit, why you! and gets angry and makes grandson C stop his behavior.
- I see. Same composition as [cycle of abuse
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