madanaizo That being said, when I was doing my oral examination for my graduation thesis (which was garbage), I was laughing my head off after making a bunch of self-deprecating jokes and the teacher said to me, “I wonder what’s going on. …Don’t you think you can get through this by just bowing your head for now? Don’t you think you’ll get the credit?” I’ve been traumatized by that, so I don’t do masochism stories in front of others. madanaizo Honestly, I usually think, “Oh, no. I’m bullying myself so much. I had been thinking seriously that if I exposed myself to my tormentors, I would be forgiven for everything in the end. It destroyed that assumption. It was a good experience. I still have nightmares about it.
RaRaRa19870304 When I used to work at a snack bar, I used to tell self-deprecating stories to make the customers laugh. But one day, my mom told me, “Don’t be self-deprecating. I was told by my mom one day, “Don’t make self-deprecating jokes, the customers don’t think it’s funny, and you’re not making them laugh, you’re being laughed at.
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