nishio: When there are technically incompatible options A and B, there are often arguments between âthose who use Aâ and âthose who use Bâ, where both sides make fun of the other camp. In fact, there are people in both camps who believe that the situation determines what is the best option. They do not agree with âthe opinion that supports one side unconditionally.
nishio: They donât think of someone who made a different choice B than they did as ânot making the right choice A because they are stupidâ. They think that they made choice B as the optimal solution to a situation different from their current one, and they want to know the reason for their choice and try to become aware of the âsituation in which B is appropriateâ for them.
nishio: and keep a friendly relationship with the person who made a different choice B than you, and when you are in a âsituation where B is appropriateâ, have that person teach you the know-how to use B. Ask them for it. When these people see someone who insists that âanyone who chooses B is an idiot,â they do not feel that they are friends, even though they are also those who choose A. They avoid it because it would be detrimental if they are considered as friends.
nishio: When I see people of a certain age going into this âvilify the opposing campâ mode, I think, âOh, theyâve closed the door to learning,â âaging population combined with the elderly switch has been turned on,â and âthey are being swallowed up by the trend of becoming old and aging,â and I think about what I can do to prevent myself from becoming the same way.
nishio: and I noticed that you didnât âstart belittling the opposing campâ, youâve been doing it since you were a young student. There is no authority gradient in the student community and everyone is unsure of themselves, so people who are belittled for their choices tend to explain, âNo, this choice has these advantagesâŠâ.
nishio: it did not close the door to learning for the ânaysayersâ. In fact, it may have even been more efficient. It would have reinforced the âbelittling behavior.â
nishio: As time goes by, age, titles, and accomplishments accumulate, and inevitably an authoritarian gradient is created between the younger person and the younger person. In this situation, the younger person does not say back. They just distance themselves, thinking, âHeâs an old man who doesnât understand the value of B.â Would you argue back then if you were the same age with no authority gradient? I thought about it, but I wonât argue this back either, and Iâll tell you why in the next tweet
nishio: Because the âdrive to talk back when someone belittles your choicesâ when you were a student was the process of ânot having confidence in yourself, feeling that your choices were belittled, and The process of âfeeling that oneâs judgmental abilities, etc., have been called into question, and explaining oneâs reasons for making the decision in order to recover oneâs dented self-respectâ.
nishio: When Mr. A is accomplished enough to generate an authority gradient against younger people, then Mr. A and Mr. B, who are not subject to the authority gradient, are also equally accomplished, and this This is the underpinning of self-esteem, so self-esteem is not dented when the choice is belittled. Therefore, no energy is generated to argue with them.
nishio: this is a very confusing trap. Because the person is not changing his/her behavior. A certain pattern of behavior contributes to the efficient gathering of information from diverse perspectives when one is young, but as it is, it slowly strangles one with age like a cotton wool, and before one realizes it, one is sucked into a black hole of inescapable senescence.
nishio: Since the person who was sucked into the black hole is unaware of it as an observational fact, it is possible that I myself, who am unaware of it, am in the process of falling into the black hole. In order to extend the time of falling as far as possible, it is necessary to move the engine against gravity with all my might even now. What exactly should I do?
nishio: I donât know what exactly I should do, but for now, when I see someone who makes a different choice than I do, instead of assuming that they are stupid, I should assume that they know something I donât. I guess I should assume that they know something that I donât know.
relevance - I want to avoid making myself old. - The world of those who kill is not expanding. - self-assurance - Gateway to Learning - Pessimistic Misconceptions - The lives of those who deny the lives of others are not enriched. - Generalize and attack conspicuously inferior people.
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