People who want to be praised by their superiors.

from Diary 2024-04-26 People who want to be praised by their superiors.

zunzun428 If you don’t experience much praise from your parents in your childhood, you look to your “boss” for that role in society.

So you work to get praise from your boss.

This can work out perfectly if you work under a boss who looks at his/her subordinates well and gives them praise and approval, but most bosses don’t give that much praise… → …

zunzun428 To begin with, it is too heavy to ask such a role from the boss… If you work hard and continue to not be praised and appreciated

“I, I’m not wanted.

and you feel more frustrated. Then you think, “If I work harder, won’t they recognize me?” and you work too hard and end up crushed.

zunzun428 The role of the boss is management, not an approver of the subordinate’s raison d’etre or whatever… Holy shit!

So I wonder if those who have experienced being crushed by working too hard have become focused on “getting praise and recognition from bosses and coworkers” rather than “doing what I want to do.

zunzun428 You might want to think about it.

Holy shit, it’s actually easy to let other people’s evaluation axes determine how you evaluate yourself. You can do what you are told, you don’t have to think about what you want to do, and you can blame others if you fail… →.

zunzun428 Of course, other people’s evaluations are important in work, but if you don’t learn to praise yourself, you can’t give yourself a break. If you don’t learn to praise yourself, you won’t be able to give yourself a break, and you’ll end up working too hard and getting crushed…over and over again. I’ll tell myself that I’m doing my best.

zunzun428 There are also light psychopath bosses who know what they’re doing, praise them a lot, and make them work like a horse with a carrot hanging in front of it to make it run. I’m not going to fall for that… I’m done.

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