Greetings 2018-03-11 Tweet that came through @kensuuâs retweet
Get used to being hated. If you take a position, you will be hated 100% of the time. No one wants to be disliked, but you canât avoid it, so itâs useless to think that you donât want to be disliked. Donât worry about it, just take a position. If you donât take a position, you wonât be hated, but you wonât be liked either. You wonât make enemies, but you wonât make friends either. The most important thing in life is one friend rather than a hundred enemies.
There is a kind of sympathy among those of us who have experienced this, like âyes, there is thatâ, but I donât think people who donât take a position for fear of being disliked will sympathize with this expression.
I describe this kind of thing as âthe same as cicadas being noisy in the summer.
Cicadas are noisy in summer. This is a natural phenomenon (phenomena) that is repeated every year. In the same way, when some output is made to attract attention, some people will say negative things about it, which is a natural phenomenon that is often repeated.
If you go around killing cicadas one by one because they are noisy, they will not quiet down at all. The effect is not worth the effort. Similarly, if you respond to someone who says something negative, for example, âThatâs a criticism based on a misunderstanding,â or âIsnât this part of your argument strange?â It is not worth the effort. It is not worth the effort.
Some people may think that if negative people are going to appear, it would be better not to engage in attention-getting activities. And there are those who think such a way of thinking is a waste of time, and that is why I am trying to persuade them repeatedly with various expressions like this. My way of persuasion is like this. âThe cicadas are so loud in the summer, thereâs no way to quiet them down. So what do you do? Would you retreat to a place where you canât hear the cicadas all summer?â Yes, cicadas are loud, but if you accept that thatâs the way it is, youâll soon get used to it and it wonât matter. No one is frightened by the sound of cicadas every summer.
In light of this, look again at the opening sentence.
Get used to being hated. If you take a position, you will be hated 100% of the time. No one wants to be disliked, but you canât avoid it, so itâs useless to think that you donât want to be disliked. Donât worry about it, just take a position. If you donât take a position, you wonât be hated, but you wonât be liked either. You wonât make enemies, but you wonât make friends either. The most important thing in life is one friend rather than a hundred enemies. My own expression is: âGet used to the cicadas being noisy. In summer, cicadas are 100% noisy. You donât like them, but you canât avoid them, so itâs useless to think about them being noisy. I think thatâs a good point.
remarks
- Cicadas die quickly.
- Note that you may be surprised when you approach a fallen cicada thinking it is dead and it suddenly starts rampaging.
- Cicadas are just noisy, No one has ever died from a cicada attack.
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