Men and women define strength differently.

Men and women have different definitions of strength.

These tweets describe an interesting observation that men and women have different definitions and metrics of "strength".

Among women, “rejecting responsibility” tends to be seen as a sign of high hierarchy. A woman who takes on many chores and responsibilities may be seen as rather weak. On the other hand, in the eyes of men, those who take on various responsibilities are seen as strong.

The “strong female” characters created by male authors such as Nausicaa and Motoko Kusanagi are portrayed as organizational leaders who face difficulties. However, among women, being in a position to reject responsibility may be viewed as enviable and high status.

It is also pointed out that among women, those with low self-esteem (weak by women’s standards) are often the ones who actually perform well. They say that women who reject responsibility are valued but not a force to be reckoned with.

While these observations are thought provoking, I would caution against generalizing. There are great individual differences, and both men and women should have a variety of values and behavior patterns. In addition, the influence of societal expectations and role divisions cannot be ignored.

However, I agree with the tweet that it is important for both men and women to seek compromise and be patient with each other in interpersonal relationships. I think it is vital to deepen mutual understanding through constructive dialogue rather than one-sidedly imposing one’s own ideas.

book_read4488”She’s obviously a weak woman in the eyes of a woman, but in the eyes of a man, she looks strong.” I was thinking about this vaguely while reading “Girls are Complicated,” but apparently among women, “rejecting responsibility” seems to indicate a high level of hierarchy.

book_read4488 From a man’s point of view, “someone who takes on a lot” looks strong, but from a woman’s point of view, “a woman who takes on a lot and carries it on her back” seems rather However, from a woman’s point of view, “a woman who takes on many things and carries them on her back” seems rather weak.

andexihaeienni The most famous examples of “strong women” in anime characters are Nausicaa of Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind and Motoko Kusanagi of Ghost in the Shell.

But they are both characters who face difficulties in their position of being in charge of an organization.

And these two characters were conceived by nothing but male writers.

koikatsu_2022 I envy you being in an environment where you can reject responsibility and must be high in the caste.

cabaretdaisuki convinced

Then they flock together to exclude the disadvantages of rejection, or they try to reason with each other as if they were armed with a theory.

But rejection = don’t want to do it = your feelings I’m not sure if it’s a good thing that I’m not a member of this group, or if I’m a member of this group.

I’m just a kid who doesn’t want to do it because he doesn’t want to.

MI62326183 In short, the position a woman should aspire to is “mistress of royalty and nobility!”

game_ey Given that animal instincts overwhelmingly correct.

azuazu_Consul On the contrary. Women with low self-esteem (weak by female standards), Often very active

In fact, it’s working well at my place.

On the other hand, a woman who says, “This is not the job for me,” is not an asset at all, although she is valued.

spell_of_enigma Isn’t it bad enough that women with a high feminine hierarchy are going out into the world?

X6uj5ztfAkahana I knew the hierarchy of men from a woman’s point of view. I guess I find “men who reject responsibility” attractive.

chu2byo9999 I really feel this when I am a nurse, a society of women.

“I don’t want to move up the ladder” is what most nurses (including chiefs and supervisors) say.

For serious people, it may be an environment where it is easy to rise in the ranks, but the stakes are high, so they are bullied and crushed while they are still newcomers.

oZzt3sfG2wyqwFw Wow, very easy to understand…

When I look at the posts of self-centered self-theorizing, it’s exactly the same thing: “Only women are made to endure! Too many of them are like that.

Of course it is necessary to resist against unreasonableness, Interpersonal relationships (both professional and personal) are usually about finding compromises that we can both tolerate…

OV3aOe1T0LhYvzA Buzzed earlier, “I’d rather be the fourth wife of a powerful man than marry a man of the world!” I wonder if it’s the same thought process. Putting the blame on the first wife…

qTOIakEAjYqAwv0 It’s Rei and Asuka from Eva. Rei, who is rarely described as being out of shape and will go out even when wounded if ordered to, and Asuka, who is excellent but always overbearing and once she gets out of shape, everything goes haywire. Clearly, Rei is more stable as a force, but Asuka is considered stronger by the public.

HM82823529h This also explains why so-called “junior” men are so popular. Excellent.

RabitGti2 Simply a reflection of the usual frustrations (and longings)

Male

A lot of big work is expected, but it’s hard work If you can do many of them, that’s great!

Woman

Usually just chores and not appreciated. People who refuse to do chores and are able to do what they are supposed to do are great!

As the ordinary changes, so do the ideals.

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