The gray choices can be adjusted by negotiations.
77BOM3cWD7wXdan Dr. at special needs training that I learned a lot from.
Staff member: “I have a child who reads during class. Academic achievement is not a problem. Parents are also taking the stance that we should give him more attention. We are allowing him to read as long as he is doing what he is supposed to be doing, but how should we go about this with other children watching?”
Dr. “Basically, I think that’s a good response. However, you should negotiate from time to time. A child who is characteristically picky tends to think in terms of [you can do it or you can’t do it. But there are many compromises and options out there. It’s fine when you can do it, but why don’t you hold back when you can’t do it? Through negotiation with teachers, we learn that there are such gray options in the world. Through negotiation with teachers, students learn that there are gray options in the world, and they learn through experience that they can adjust these options through negotiation. Whether we allow or forbid, if we just follow what has been decided from above, we will not be able to learn that.”
The term is used to refer to the following.
And if that negotiation didn’t change the situation all along, that’s not a problem.
The objective is not to improve the behavior of “reading books” during this school year, but to develop the idea and ability to negotiate with others around you in order to find a drop-off point with others after middle school.
I didn’t have this perspective, so I learned a lot.
This page is auto-translated from /nishio/グレーの選択肢を交渉によって調整していける using DeepL. If you looks something interesting but the auto-translated English is not good enough to understand it, feel free to let me know at @nishio_en. I’m very happy to spread my thought to non-Japanese readers.