We tend to forget this by the time we grow up, but in the early years of our lives, when we remember that we cannot survive without food, clothing, and shelter provided by a creature many times larger and stronger than ourselves, we acquire anxiety that we will die if we are not evaluated at this time.
Sometimes this anxiety is not resolved in adulthood. For example, a strong person who takes pleasure in controlling others lust for power tries to control others by taking hold of the giving and taking of evaluations. They can be insecure and reinforced by these people.
What would it take to antidote the anxiety of “I’ll die if I’m not appreciated?”
- Proposal 1: A quantity of property that others can live without having to value it. - economic independence, that’s what they call it.
- Basic human personality established in childhood
- The word structure “is” gives a strong nuance of “something that is established and difficult to change,” but the general direction is the same.
- Formed in childhood, it will affect your life as an adult.
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