kentaro I can sympathize with you about being in your 40s and not having any great strengths, like insecurity, but on the other hand, no matter how old you are, as long as you live your life in comparison to others, your insecurity will never go away. No matter what age you are, you can do what you believe is right. If you don’t have that, then the essence of the problem is not your age, but your failure to cultivate values.

kentaro But we’re only human.

kentaro That is, after all, what others are comparing you to, and it has nothing to do with you comparing yourself to others. However, it is common for people to internalize what others are comparing themselves to as their own comparisons, and because of this, it is necessary to be aware of this.

unagix: I think you are talking about the fact that even those who have lived their lives that way have a hard time escaping being compared to others when it comes to “changing jobs”. x.com/kentaro/status…

kentaro[I have told you many times that you will be plagued by insecurities that cannot be resolved because you have not been raised with enough sense of values. I don’t mean to imply that you should just stick to yourself. I have talked about this in a little more detail using the following slides.

  • [Live Your Own Life - Live for Fun and Develop Your Values / Live Your Own Life - Live for Fun and Develop Your Values - Speaker Deck https://speakerdeck.com/kentaro/live-your- own-life-live-for-fun-and-develop-your-values]

tmtysk “The problem is not age, but the failure to nurture values. I saw the slides for the first time. I also wondered if it is possible to foster confidence in order to nurture values, and if those around them can be involved in that way.

Comparison with others is the source of [anxiety comparison with others.


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