Note on an interesting case of cognitive distortion that internal politics is to blame.
Questioner believes that âmy boss likes internal politicsâ and âI donât understand how my boss can get in my way.â
Respondent points out that the questionerâs cognition is distorted.
- They label their superiorsâ actions and âinternal politicsâ.
- Assuming âinternal politicsâ to be negative.
- He stated that he does not understand his supervisorâs behavior. This is typical â[Attacking something you donât know well without trying to know it.
Respondents additionally noted that âMiscommunication goes both ways.â and urged action for improvement
The questioner responded by submitting a post-submission, âWhatâs wrong with your bossâs inner life,â and asked, âDoes this still not change your judgment?â I asked. The respondent flushes, âOnly if that interpretation of the bossâs inner life is true.â
- This appears to be a judgment that âI expected you to give me an answer that was good for me, but that didnât happen, so I did what I did to get you to give me an answer that was good for meâ and âprobably not trueâ.
- Itâs a distorted perception, so I donât even think talking about it any further will give us any âtrueâ information.
- Nor will the questioner improve his behavior.
- Iâm not trying to improve, I just want you to say whatâs good for me.
- The questioner means [People who donât cut their nose hair.
- The respondent appears to think so and is trying to end the conversation.
https://twitter.com/kensuu/status/1683768050200498181
ăQă I am angry with my boss at work.
That boss likes internal politics, rooting around in the company rather than getting the job done, He is good at talking behind the back, etc. in the absence of the parties involved, He is a man who has a way of taking advantage by getting powerful people on his side.
Such a boss seems to hate me, that I am in charge,
Some interfere with work that should clearly be important to the company, Sometimes they rob you of your job, and sometimes they do whatever they want under the umbrella of their bossâs authority.
For a supervisor, though, he should take credit for the success of his subordinates, Why are they interrupting us? I honestly donât understand. Instead of completely thinking about the interests of the company and the team, it seems to me that the only thought is to kick others down and get yourself to the top.
How should I deal with such a boss? I would like to consider changing departments, but I donât want to be transferred because I want to continue my current job description.
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ăAă Ah, I donât know how to put it, but it might be a good idea to reflect on the state of âlosing to internal politicsâ in simple terms.
While I agree 100% that the interests of the company, the customers, and the team are more important than internal politics, I personally think that âpeople who look down on or disregard internal politics below that are a negative in a company organizationâ.
I think it is better to have the perspective that âas long as human beings operate as an organization, there will always be politics, and the importance of politics is very important in the operation of an organization.
Because people who disregard internal politics tend to act without understanding internal politics, and as a result, they end up creating very big politics. For example, if a person who dislikes internal politics becomes president, he or she may say, âYou donât have to coordinate with your boss! You tell me directly! As long as it is the right thing to do, I will do it! Then, the opinions of those who are close to the president are more likely to prevail, and things will proceed not by law, rules, or discipline, but by individual play. Then a kind of faction that gets along well with the president is formed, and the opinions of those who fall out of that faction or those who are disliked by that faction cannot be heard, so they somehow get into the goodwill groupâŠthings like that happen.
So, I wrote this because from the way you say it, it sounds like you have some criticism of your boss doing > internal politics and rooting for the company.
So, in terms of internal politics.
âFor a boss, he should take credit for his subordinateâs success, but why does he get in the way? I honestly donât understand.â
As you say, âIf a subordinate can be used by the boss to get ahead or to get around in the company, then I will use him or her and cooperate with him or her.â But the fact that the situation is going in the opposite direction is a sign of
- The boss thinks that if the questioner is active, he will lose out.
That is what I mean. So,
- Make the questioner feel that the more active he/she is, the more his/her boss benefits, and build a cooperative relationship.
I think it means that internal politics is not working well in that we are not doing > the same thing.
This is going to sound harsh, but somehow I get the feeling that you feel strongly that your boss should fix it, but he is not your mentor or teacher or anything, he is just one of your business stakeholders, and you should reflect on your failure to manage him well, I think itâs probably more positive. I think it would probably be more positive to reflect on how you are not managing it well, like, âYou are the boss, so do this for your subordinates!â If I were a subordinate, that would be a meaningless idea.
Of course, if you are in the position of a supervisor, you should think, âWhen your subordinate thinks so, you have failed in management, so the problem is 100% on the supervisorâs side. The point is that when you assume that the other person is at fault, you probably wonât be able to solve the problem at all, nor will it lead to growth, so you should think about your own inadequacies.
On top of that, in general, it is probably difficult to understand the importance of what your boss is doing regarding rooting and politics when you are a subordinate. When I was a new graduate myself, I didnât understand what my superiors were doing at all, but now I think, âThey were doing a lot of things based on a fairly high level of internal politics and dealings. Itâs sometimes hard to understand this area unless you are in that perspective.
I thought it would be easier to make it work if I put myself in the bossâs shoes and thought about what he or she is trying to do, what would make him or her happy, and how I can be an effective subordinate for him or her. I thought it would be easier to make it work!
https://twitter.com/kensuu/status/1684171499769565184
ăQă
I even ate the âlosing internal politicsâ thing along with RT. (Not sure why I RTâd itâŠ)
This is because if I have self-centered âfeelingsâ that have nothing to do with my work (e.g., I only want to deal with young girls, but an older woman is transferred as a subordinate, and I am very stressed by her presence. If this was motivated by a self-centered âfeelingâ that has nothing to do with the job (e.g., I only want to deal with young girls, but an older woman has been transferred as a subordinate. ) was the motive, would the answer still be the same?
Main ingredients of suspicion of self-centered âfeelingsâ: continuous rejection of greetings and questions from the very first meeting, demotion-level evaluation for âbrusque attitude demotivating other staffâ even though they performed their duties without problems, and the exact opposite of the above for the young girls.
(By the way, this is mostly my situation, I had an adjustment disorder from trying to swallow this situation and whatnot, so I took a leave of absence and eventually got off that team. I am now wondering what I should have done and what I should do now that I am back at work)
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ăAă Oh, of course, the assumption is that it totally depends on the person and the situation. Iâm trying to answer in a maximum common denominator way, like âIâm going to write this personâs question and the answer to it so that I can include a lot of points that would be useful.
âFor example, I only want to deal with young girls, but an older woman is transferred as my subordinate. This is very stressful for me, so Iâll give her a bad name and ask her to go away.â If this is true, it is not a good idea because it is unprofessional as a member of the company.
However, human psychology is complex and gradational, so I wonder if that is not the only reason that determines behavior, and there are also a crazy number of cases where the person on the victimized side says âIâm older, so this is how it isâ, but when you ask the person doing it, the reason is completely different. I think itâs a very interesting case.
So I sometimes see things get very strange as a result of people assuming that the reason they are being such jerks is because that person thinks this way.
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