When you come up with an idea A and then realize that someone else came up with A before you, some people feel negative and some feel positive.
negative pattern
- Myself, “I think it would be good to do A.”
- Others “thought it would be a good idea for me to do A in the past too.”
- Myself, “Well, I’m disappointed that I’m not first.”
positive pattern
- Myself, “I think it would be good to do A.”
- Others “thought it would be a good idea for me to do A in the past too.”
- I said to myself, “Oh! I knew it, you should do A!”
What’s the difference?
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Mr. Negative sees value in “the first thing that comes to his mind.
- So the value is lost when it turns out that someone else came up with the idea first.
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Mr. Positive sees value in “good ideas”.
- Therefore, the fact that others have come up with the same idea is perceived as something like “I got a favorable opinion for my idea.
- I am not interested in which came first.
from Diary 2022-09-24 Be positive by noticing who came up with the idea before you did.
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