from imposter syndrome About Humility

  • humility について/villagepump/nishio.icon
  • When someone says something like, “That’s great,” I sometimes reflexively say, “No, no, it’s not.”
  • There’s a culture that calls this “modesty” and sees it as a positive thing.
  • On the other hand, this is also an act of bashing away at the other person’s “wow” feelings.
  • I saw a story like that at some point in my life and thought, “That’s true,” so when I felt like saying, “No, no, it’s not true,” I try to reply, “Thank you very much.
    • +1/villagepump/inajob.icon
      • Same when he praised my daughter.
    • I’m trying to pay it back, but I’m not convinced./villagepump/yosider.icon
      • I guess I don’t have to agree with you.
      • I’ll take the fact that you said that as a given.
      • I’m not “convinced,” and I don’t think I need to be./villagepump/nishio.icon
        • Like, “Wow, you think so.”
        • Positive or negative evaluations are just “you think so”.
        • Accepting” and “agreeing” are two different things.
          • You wrote it here.
          • It is one thing to accept a person’s claim A and another to believe that the claim is true.
          • This person said A” is an observed fact.
            • A is interpretation
            • facts are not the same as interpretations
  • Specific examples of “Accepting others’ evaluations

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