- First of all, the basic premise is that there are people in the world who say NO to everything.
- There are people who are blessed to have grown up without meeting such people, surrounded by people who affirm them.
- That person is surprised when they are told NO for the first time.
- And try to understand why they are saying NO.
- I assume that they are saying NO based on a misunderstanding, and I assume that if I explain it properly, they will understand, and I spend the cost of explanation.
- But that is just an observation of a previously unobservable phenomenon, not something that can be eliminated with a lot of effort.
- It is necessary to understand the fact that “there are people in the world who deny themselves,” not as a denial of one’s own personality, but as a mere fact, a mere natural phenomenon.
- Conversely, some people grew up receiving negative messages.
- Tend to block communication because communicating with others has been learned in a negative way. Tend to build walls.
- When these people meet someone who comes over the wall and says positive things about them, they overestimate their value.
- It is possible that the person is a good person, but in many cases it is someone who has learned that “it is easy to befriend a wallflower if you approach him in a friendly manner.
- The only way to bring evaluations closer to normal values is to increase the number of evaluators.
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